How To Interact With The Others
March 22, 2009 by ben
Filed under Interaction
Communication is an act of being a good listener and understanding what the other person is trying to say. Communication is a useful tool, in speech and in writing, for conveying information to others in everyday transactions. Anyone can become a skilled communicator and effectively interact with others. For most of us, it’s probably easier to be the talker than the listener. But we should try to really listen to what the other person is saying or at least trying to say, and if we are at all confused at what we are hearing, we need to ask more questions!
We’re not silly or ignorant because we don’t fully understand someone and need to ask more questions. We’re acting silly when we think we already know someone and take that person’s way of thinking and feelings under our own understanding and dissect it into what we want and think it to be. We certainly don’t want to be misinformed, do we? So lets try and understand the other person better.
Some of us don’t know how to convey feelings and thoughts the way we really feel because were afraid of what the other person might think of us. But if we don’t express ourselves and how we feel properly that person will not see us for who we really are. When we interact with others through faulty communication it could be detrimental to the partnership and cause all kinds of confusion.
Expressing our self with anger in marriage can cause our spouse to feel like we don’t love or care about them. It can be very confusing to the spouse who is taking this abuse. When we act out aggression in a negative way, our spouse doesn’t understand what we are trying to convey to them, whether it be a complaint or harbored resentment. It’s okay to express angry feelings, but to do it in a way that is going to actually assist both parties in getting the issue resolved. Accusing and finger pointing doesn’t get feelings and thoughts out appropriately. What does is directing hurt emotions at yourself, instead of at who you are talking to.
Do say, “I feel so angry that you spent our vacation money. We both worked hard at saving those funds.”Don’t say, “You stupid idiot, what is wrong with you, can’t you do anything right?”
Always try to turn the conversation towards self by using phrases like, “I thought,” “I feel,” “I think,” Try not to use finger pointing accusations. This will shut down the listener, and they will scamper away from you.
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