Language Of Life
April 4, 2009 by ben
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Each human being has an inner vibration, it is audible and visible. It is not evident to the eyes neither audible to the ears, but it is audible and evident to the heart.
Harmonics can be influenced externally through view and sound. The natural environment in an agency can sway harmony easily. For demonstration red partitions stimulate a individual and will make them inclined to fight. A hitting hue will give you an argumentative environment. From a psychological issue of outlook very vintage culture use a certain colors for a marriage, and other colors for distinct festivals. It all has significance, there is a psychological implication behind the subtle truths of our external lives.
People sway each other ones harmonics. People conceive a feeling that is granted off without them having said or finished anything. An individual can broadcast a awful feeling, without doing or saying anything. This conceives a contradictory air, and you will be painful with them. Because persons are so material in our world we do not realize this power that individual has on another through what is going on inside themselves. It is not because of their saying or doing; it is because of their being.
If we could realize and tap into this immense asset of understanding, we would start to realize the power of life itself, because everything has a vibration and that vibration notifies the truth. It will work out achievement and malfunction, joyfulness and unhappiness, sickness and health. We will have a larger scope for close to that unlimited promise which is inside us when we realize the power of being. The very vintage mystics talk of self-knowledge. This does not signify knowing; how vintage I am, or how good I am, or how awful I am, or how right or incorrect I am. It means understanding the other part of one’s being, that deeper, subtle facet of one’s being and it is on the information of that being, that the fulfillment of life depends.
Identity determinants us to close us off from both the external life, and the inner life. That inner part of life is made of sound and lightweight and when we get in feel with this part, then we understand the language of life, nature. This language expresses the past, the present and the future. It is a language which discloses the mysteries and the feature of environment, it is a language which obtains and presents the large notes of inspiration.
An individual who is apprehended in their persona is dwelling on the exterior of life. They will become materialistic, and labor to accomplish only for themselves and reside for their own benefit. They will bear from forenoon to night. They will be acrid and in problem, as they are in the midst of labor and confrontation, mostly with themselves. To mend, the heart should be free, free to love. The individual who discovers this has come to a really increased state of being.
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Washroom Interaction
April 4, 2009 by ben
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Imagine yourself at a bar with some of your buddies. Everybody is having a good time. Suddenly your buddy stands up and inquires you to proceed to the washroom with them.
Now if you were a feminine this would be completely usual you would gladly accept and likely converse up a gale in the washroom. But if you were a man being inquired by another man you would feel embarrassed, marvel about your friends sexuality and manlyhood and wish that remainder of the assembly doesn’t believe the identical about you.
Why do woman use the washroom as a gathering place? Why do men habitually proceed to washroom alone? In the past when times where a bit easier but more unsafe woman would not ever proceed to the washroom by themselves in worry of being assaulted by a untamed animal. Instead they would proceed out in loads so this way they could defend each other from likely threats. Therefore that is why they proceed to the washroom simultaneously as it is natural instinct.
On the other hand the man being the hunter and protector of the assembly would habitually proceed to the washroom by himself. Therefore inquiring another man to proceed to the washroom will make him gaze feeble and incapable to fight back himself like one of the ladies. Although I’m certain many of woman can fight back themselves better.
So what do woman converse about in the washroom. They attractive much converse about any thing and anybody. They talk about which men they like and which men they don’t, and any individual difficulties they are having or their friends. Therapy to any individual who looks distressed and cosmetics converse to any outsider who asks.
Men on the other hand don’t converse to anybody. This is attractive much a universal unwritten rule. The farther away they are from other men the better. Let’s state there are a couple of urinal’s the first man will select the one at the end. Now the second man will select the other one at the end. Never would you glimpse a man choose one right adjacent another man when there are other ones farther away.
Also most expected a man will take an enclosed toilet before he has to pee adjacent another man. One thing that men don’t have a difficulty doing is farting, generally the louder and longer the better. For the females no farting is aloud. This one time afresh brings us back to gut feelings for the men; the louder and more powerful the better.
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How Men Expressing Themselves?
March 22, 2009 by ben
Filed under Interaction
When dealing with issues within the marriage, I have found that some of us tend to over-react and go on and on and not really get to the point of what’s bothering us. When there is a problem that needs discussed, we may bring up past issues, instead of the issue at hand because we feel resentful. It’s hard for anyone to understand this kind of behavior and it feels like we are being nagged at instead of talked to. This is why some of us avoid issues and confrontations or walk away when the heat kicks up. No one wants to be nagged at or put down. Lack of proper communication never solves the problem. More resentment builds up and walking away and ignoring the issue sounds better and better. But we don’t want this. That is why we need to learn to react in beneficial ways when our spouse upsets us.
When expressing themselves, men have a tendency to shorten things too much and think their wives can read their minds, which of course, isn’t true. Men, if you’re talking to your wives about something, it helps to explain in detail what it is you need her to do. Women like and need more detail. Specify who, what, when, and where and she’ll be happy.
Good talkers are usually good listeners. And good listeners will speak what they mean. They explain things in such a way that the other person understands exactly what it is they are trying to convey. Expressing thoughts and feelings can be hard to do. Especially when we aren’t sure what those thoughts are. We should strive to know what it is we want ourselves before saying something that could invariably bring on distorted thinking and hearing.
Sometimes we hear only what we want to hear and miss out on much of what was really said. We do this in the hopes that we can scamper away from reality so we won’t feel the hurt or pain from what we just heard. Or we actually hear what was said, but forget we ever heard it. This happens subconsciously because we don’t want to accept what the other person is saying and this is where severe communication breakdown in marriage can arise.
The best thing we can do if we do disagree with someone is first try and understand the other persons feelings by validating their opinion if we can, and then state how we feel. Complainers, naggers and disagreeable people have a difficult time listening to what others have to say and usually aren’t good at expressing themselves either.
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How To Interact With The Others
March 22, 2009 by ben
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Communication is an act of being a good listener and understanding what the other person is trying to say. Communication is a useful tool, in speech and in writing, for conveying information to others in everyday transactions. Anyone can become a skilled communicator and effectively interact with others. For most of us, it’s probably easier to be the talker than the listener. But we should try to really listen to what the other person is saying or at least trying to say, and if we are at all confused at what we are hearing, we need to ask more questions!
We’re not silly or ignorant because we don’t fully understand someone and need to ask more questions. We’re acting silly when we think we already know someone and take that person’s way of thinking and feelings under our own understanding and dissect it into what we want and think it to be. We certainly don’t want to be misinformed, do we? So lets try and understand the other person better.
Some of us don’t know how to convey feelings and thoughts the way we really feel because were afraid of what the other person might think of us. But if we don’t express ourselves and how we feel properly that person will not see us for who we really are. When we interact with others through faulty communication it could be detrimental to the partnership and cause all kinds of confusion.
Expressing our self with anger in marriage can cause our spouse to feel like we don’t love or care about them. It can be very confusing to the spouse who is taking this abuse. When we act out aggression in a negative way, our spouse doesn’t understand what we are trying to convey to them, whether it be a complaint or harbored resentment. It’s okay to express angry feelings, but to do it in a way that is going to actually assist both parties in getting the issue resolved. Accusing and finger pointing doesn’t get feelings and thoughts out appropriately. What does is directing hurt emotions at yourself, instead of at who you are talking to.
Do say, “I feel so angry that you spent our vacation money. We both worked hard at saving those funds.”Don’t say, “You stupid idiot, what is wrong with you, can’t you do anything right?”
Always try to turn the conversation towards self by using phrases like, “I thought,” “I feel,” “I think,” Try not to use finger pointing accusations. This will shut down the listener, and they will scamper away from you.
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Communication Skills
March 22, 2009 by ben
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There are some easy ways to learn about Communication skills:
Always start with an Intention
Anything we start, including communication skills, usually has reason and a starting point. While we become conscious about this fact for the obvious things like brushing our teeth to avoid tooth decay, we forget to give the same importance to our communication. We start talking, go through all the niceties and then some how stumble upon the reason for conversation or make it up by that time. The problem with this approach is that the message looses its power. If you keep doing this often, you loose the power to bring it to work when needed.
Forget techniques and learn principles
A lot of managers are fond of using something called a Sandwich technique. It is situation where you slip in a negative comment or feedback layered in between two positive comments. It is a good technique no doubt. But if you repeat it to the same old staff for 2 years, it means you are not capable of innovating. People get conditioned to any one particular behavior over time and so the technique looses its impact.
We all develop a favorite way of reacting to situations. We gather these techniques by experience and learning from others. What we eventually have forgotten is that they are just techniques, and are replaceable. Something like software programs which almost always get replaced by a better version. But since it works so well to us, we get possessive about it and find our selves bound by it.
Develop flexibility in language and in approach
Flexibility is also needed in your approach to communication. Developing more than one approach is really good. If your style of approaching women is the Nice Guy, try the cocky and funny approach. See how that works. Please do not measure any new skill by the initial response you get because, all new skills need to be naturalized before it becomes effective. As you develop flexibility, you will find yourself more comfortable to live with and then others will also find you comfortable to be with.
So to be the survivor of the fittest in the field of communication skills, always start with an intention in your mind. Once you master this, your level of influence will increase rapidly. Take away your focus on techniques and learn the principles. This way you tap the source of power itself rather than a branch. The last and most importantly, develop flexibility in your language and approach. It will maximize your audience and thus your power.
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